You’ve see the headlines:
New Year’s resolutions--why do they never seem to work? Most of the time we feel like failures or end up rolling over our goals into the next year.
I think we’ve got the wrong idea about New Year’s resolutions. Friends, a resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. Usually something that is voted on, something for which you’ve weighed the pros and cons. There is something finalizing about a resolution-a formal decision you’ve made.
HuffPost blogger Kayla Matthews talks a bit about why not to make resolutions, and I think she’s onto something when she says, “Make Goals When the Time is Right.”
It’s all about readiness for change. The right intentions, motivations, and circumstances have to be present for someone to really make a long-lasting change in their life. If you know losing 50 pounds isn’t realistic, take a baby step. A non-New Year’s resolutioner (yes, I made that term up) would say, “I am going to work at walking every day. I know I won’t some days, and it’s okay. It’s a big change for me, but I’m working up the courage to lose weight. This is my process and it is what works for me, with where I am, and with my current situation.”
Didn’t that feel better than listing a daunting bullet point: “Lose 50 lbs by 12/31/16.?”
Let’s allow for some wiggle room, because life is going to throw us curveballs and lemons and all sorts of miscellaneous headaches. We adapt, we cope, we work with it.
Now, of course goal setting is healthy! No is denying we should work at becoming better versions of ourselves. Some people thrive on rules and deadlines…but what happens when things don’t go quite as planned? Take care of yourself, however that looks for you. Be kind to yourself--I truly believe that is the best thing you can accomplish in 2016.
Cheers to a kinder 2016!
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